Abusers Don’t Care If You Lose Your Mind

Can I tell you something about evil…evil is not and never will be your partner in healing or mental and emotional well-being. As nice as it would be, evil is not capable of empathy or sympathy and when evil shows up in the form of a malignant, sociopathic narcissist, destruction is the name of the game.

 

God gives us two ways to deal with evil and unstoppable destructive behavior…resist (James 4:47), and remove (1 Corinthians 5:11, 2 Timothy 3:1-5). I know these are easier said than done — especially when it’s a loved one, but understand something beloved…the Bible never said you could change a demon or convert a demon. This is perhaps one of the most misunderstood aspects of our faith.

 

Jesus never prayed for, healed or saved a demon. You are not anointed or called to be a demon whisperer. Demonic spirits have an earthly assignment beloved and it is not to help you heal.

 

 

A destructive demonic spirit that influences someone’s behavior is working with a willing vessel beloved. If they were not willing, the demonic spirit could not stand or survive — “A house divided cannot stand.” If they’re on the devil’s team, they don’t care about your mental or emotional health.

 

You can pray for them and their courage to see the light but changing them is not your assignment. Change is their assignment — not simply for you, but for their own soul. If someone is not willing to change or does not have a genuine desire to change for their own soul — through work…you can be sure they aren’t willing to change for you or your sanity.

 

And can I tell you something else about evil…when evil apologizes to you, that doesn’t mean that the individual is not still a willing vessel. An apology from a willing vessel is simply a manipulative trick to suck you back into their sadistic trauma web. This sadistic mentality often is a companion spirit of the narcissist spirit, and it is called Sadistic Personality Disorder. Sadistic personality disorder (SDP) is characterized by an individual’s pattern of cruel, harsh, aggressive, intimidating, humiliating, and demeaning behavior to manipulate others.

 

You might not recognize this sadistic pathology upfront because the toxic, malignant narcissistic abuser is a master of disguises, and will often disguise their sadistic manipulation with Narcissistic Hoovering. Narcissistic hoovering refers to attempts made by the narcissist to bring you back into their web. You probably experience narcissistic hoovering as them pouring on the charm, playing on your emotions, saying what you want to hear and sounding repentant — for the 100th time. And always when you’ve had enough. By now you’ve figured out that hoovering doesn’t last long — just as long as it takes to work you over and trick you into giving them another chance.

 

This legion of demons that you’re up against don’t care about your healing or your mental and emotional health beloved. You will discover that the more you depend on your abuser to get right — for your mental and emotional health, the more difficult it is for you to own your mental and emotional health — I call it outsourcing. Outsourcing occurs when we entrust our well-being to a legion of demons with the hopes that one of them will have sympathy or empathy enough to get right so we can get better. It never happens beloved.

 

Let me leave you with this…You’re dealing with a demonic force, the same kind of demonic spirits that Jesus encountered and cast into the swine: “Then Jesus asked him, “What is your name?” “My name is Legion,” he replied, “for we are many” (Mark 5:9). Trust God: Resist and Remove. Tell yourself the truth, get help if you need to with Cognitive Dissonance or Trauma Bond — emotional struggle with the truth, wipe the dust off your feet, own your mental and emotional health, pray and walk away.

 

That legion will destroy you if you don’t.